There is a reoccurring theme going on of women not being able to let go of crumbs so that they may enjoy the entire cake; and it makes sense. The spiritual connection that is created when two people have sex is beyond our human comprehension. It’s so deep and powerful that God said we are not supposed to have it until we are married and also only to the one we are married. As humans we have done and continue to do things our own way and wonder why things are not working out for us. READ THE MANUAL & MOST IMPORTANTLY APPLY IT TO YOUR LIFE. Yeah, it only works if you work it.
So, when women go crazy and can’t seem to get past these men that use, abuse, betray, and belittle them, it’s because they let them into the most sacred parts of their soul and it’s not as simple as putting out the trash. One needs to be healed, restored, and they must transform their minds and ways of thinking; least it shall happen again.
When I began to see myself just a glimpse of the way God sees me, I started to want more for myself. Then I surrounded myself with people who knew my worth and value and they often reminded me and gave me constructive criticism (that’s important). Doing a large amount of self work helps you to choose BETTER MEN and refuse to settle. Sex causes a strong attachment that feels unbreakable because it was supposed to be that way. But God will help you to turn things around; HE is the only 1 that I know that can fix a broken mess.
I want to share a short list of what to do for anyone that may be struggling with this.
10 Ways to Help Get Him Outta Ya Head & Bed
1) Read the book in the bible called Song of Solomon
This could help you to dream up for yourself a great man and understand how God intended love to be.
2) Instead of 100 dollar Bags and shoes, get yourself some Therapy, Counseling, or a Life Coach
The process is hard and having someone assist you and give you direction could mean the world!
3) Read some great books on dating
This can help you to renew your mind and reprogram you for the next time around if you allow it to.
4) If you have a hobby or a passion dive into it
And if you don’t you should find one. You have to fill your mind and time up least that lonely sting so hard.
5) Listen to messages of truth
There are a lot of great dating messages out there in videos and blogs. (There are a lot of bad ones to but…)
6) Seek out a faithful accountability partner
This person can be 100% honest with you and you them. (You can run the messages I was saying you should watch and read by them and they can let you know if you’re headed in the right direction)
7) Change your number
Listen I know that’s not an easy thing to do sometimes (especially if you’ve had they # for years) but you have to do what you have to do if the simple stuff like not answering the call isn’t working.
8) Don’t Open The Door or let him in
I don’t care if he is bleeding and you are a nurse, call 911! It’s important to the process that you refuse all of his advances to keep you dangling from his leash.
9) Get Rid of His Residue
This could help a lot if there are triggers all around. Scents, left behind belongings, memories with the colored sheets. Get it out of your house.
10) Replace his old space with God
I even mean sleep with your bible beside you to mentally remind yourself where your heart should be. Giving your heart, mind, body, and soul to the Lord will cause a great man to come and give you what you desire most… TRUE LOVE.
Does this list seem doable or unrealistic? Please let me know your thoughts and thanks for reading!