Have you ever been around someone and no matter what sunshine comes into the room or what brightness comes into their lives they can not see happiness or the positive things in life? They call these people “Kill Joys” but the truth is you can’t kill true joy, yet, it can be stolen. But when a Negative Nancy steals your joy it isn’t to brighten her own mood, it’s stolen to be stepped on with her misery.
Often times people will pour all of their time, effort, and energy into trying to help these people cheer up, be happy, and think more positively. But when a person is not aware that they are sick, they tend not to visit the doctor. You can tell them they need to go to the emergency room all you want, but until they feel the pain (like really feel the pain) they won’t budge! And even then sometimes the pain is so normal to them that it’s just something they choose to carry everyday. They put band aids on things that call for surgery and they go through life infecting those they come in contact with.
Pain is not a reason to flee a relationship, but it is a reason you flee an Unhealthy Relationship. How can you tell if you are in an unhealthy relationship? Well, if you are emotionally healthy you will know, but here are 5 signs:
1) When you see their name pop up, you’re irritated or questioning if you should even answer your phone
2) You lie to protect their feelings (this also goes for with holding the truth)
3) You lie to get out of things with them (favors/spending time together)
4) You feel obligated to them and their happiness
5) Most of the time when you leave each other you are worst off than before
Sometimes people change and sometimes they don’t. Some relationships are worth the hard effort and some are not. Each one is different and if you are working on yourself and you are a healthy minded individual, you will know which is which; and in hard cases you can seek advice. Here is my breife advice on the matter:
Only consider staying in a relationship with a “changing for the better” person.
Here are 5 signs a person is changing for the better:
1) They acknowledge they have issues
2) They apologize for their negative behavior and don’t repeat it
3) They catch themselves quicker in their mess
4) You start to feel different (better) when they are in your presence
5) They are actively or have sought out counsel or accountability
I hope this help. It’s a new year and a new day. It’s time to live life more abundantly as we all should! Helping others is great, but their are people (LIKE MYSELF)
that actually get paid to do so. Get healthy in every area of your life, this Relationship Stuff is KEY!