Hello, my name is Shalena D.I.V.A., The Purpose Driven Diva and I am a guest blogger today on therelationshipstuff.com because I gotta get some things off my chest. Why am I abstaining from sex? IT’s a matter of yes and no. When I think about the times when I did have sex, I always had an empty feeling afterwards. I can’t quite explain it, but I did. Even after some of the best sex I ever had. Do I want to continue to feel that way after having sex…NO! Do I want to be with a man who doesn’t mind sleeping with me, but won’t commit to me in marriage? NO! Do I want to feel overly emotional and territorial over a man who doesn’t belong to me…NO! Do I want to be in a relationship where he only calls when he’s interested in having sex…NO! Do I want to run the risk of getting pregnant–HECK NO!
Since I have abstained, what have I started saying yes to? Do I think I’m worth the wait, OH YES! Does abstaining make me feel more attractive and beautiful, surprisingly YES! Does abstaining give me more confidence, SURPRISINGLY YES! Does abstaining from sex cause me to feel sexier, OMG…YES! HOW IS THAT? This is the sexiest I ever felt.
Now this is interesting. Does abstaining from sex help me to stay focused and achieve more goals, YES! Does abstaining help me with self-control, YES! Desiring to be with a man is NORMAL, but it doesn’t mean that I have to sleep with a guy because I find him attractive. I am learning this as I go along. No one ever taught me about this growing up. meaning people only said don’t have sex, yet they never gave me anything to say yes to. Ultimately, does abstaining make me feel like I’m pleasing God, YES! I will continue to flesh this out because I never realized that choosing to abstain opened up a world of possibilities in my life.. DEEP.
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Shalena D.I.V.A. is a ANTI-BULLYING EXPERT, CERTIFIED LIFE COACH, AUTHOR, AND SPEAKER. You can find out more about her at shalenadiva.com or by liking her Facebook page.