The other day while I was reading my class assignment in Interpersonal Communication, I read a story about two best friends. The issue that arose was that both of them had applied to get a 20,000.00 scholarship for grad school but only one of them got it. The one girl that didn’t win couldn’t feel happy for her friend because she was upset and jealous that she didn’t get chosen. I thought this was horrible, although I remember how it feels to be on both of these sides.
There was a time in my life that my heart had conflict with joy and pain when it came to seeing others be blessed. I’m just so glad that isn’t a struggle anymore. So, why is it that a person can be your best friend and not have those happy feelings towards you when you are receiving a blessing? Usually things start at the root; do you know what is at the root of jealousy and envy? It is the very fact that certain people do not trust and believe that the blessings that God has intended for their life are going to be. They may even believe that nothing good is going to come their way and even if it does, it won’t satisfy them. They don’t believe in Jeremiah 29:11 which states,
If people don’t believe this, they tend to not do the work required to obtain the blessings. There are plenty of times that God will just send blessings our way without us lifting a finger, but reality is that if you want to become a Doctor and open your own clinic; you are going to have to put in some work for that dream to come true.
I have wanted things that others have been blessed with and my heart became torn and cold because God didn’t give them to me. But when I accepted the fact that my life and my path were designed to be different, I became very content with everything I had and everything I didn’t. Now when ever my friends or loved one receive a blessing, my heart fills with joy for them and my eyes with tears! There is no need for me to ever feel a twinge of hate, jealousy, or envy, because I know that what God has for me, it is for me, and it’s more than enough!