“What if I don’t like living with him?”
“What if they are extremely dirty?”
“What if they are totally bad with money?”
“What if he always leaves the toilet seat up?”
“What if they always leave the cereal box open?“
“What if she looks a hot mess going to bed and in the morning?”
“I just need to know What I’m getting myself into!”
I have heard it all. All of the different reasons why people have convinced themselves that it is better to live with someone before they marry them. Christian and non-Christian alike have come up with a whole plethora of reasons (excuses) as to why cohabitation is wise before you say “I do.”
When you bring God into the conversation everyone wants to look at you as if you are being unwise, unreal, irrational, and unrealistic. But wasn’t it God who created humans, households, and marriage? There are a lot of people who operate in businesses and relationships with out any understanding of how to make them successful. I was one of them. I believe I was the master of destruction when it came to relationships. I even managed to destroy my relationship with myself.
I have been on both sides and I must say doing things God’s way has always been beneficial 100%. I lived with two of my exes whom I never was married to and I can say that those relationships were a total disaster! I didn’t need to keep trying the same thing over and over to see that it wasn’t good. I needed to at least try the GOD’s way. I am a believer of “If you keep doing the same things, you’ll keep getting the same results.”
When I decided to give my life over to the Lord and to trust Him, I had to make certain decisions that went against everything I knew. You see, I wanted God to have total control and I wanted to follow His ways because mine had proven to be unsuccessful (in all areas).
There are many cases where people can say living together is working out fine, but there are also many people living mediocre lives, settling for less, not reaching for their dreams, living in dead in surroundings, working in unfulfilling jobs, and the list goes on. I reached a point in my life where I just wanted more. More joy, more peace, more happiness, more blessing, just more! That abundant life the Bible talks about is what I was after.
When you have witnessed many examples of people not living together before marriage making it, your views can begin to change. I had to start surrounding myself with the people who were not just saying it, but doing it and done it. Believing everything in the Bible didn’t come easy for me like it doesn’t for others, but I really had to give it a TRUE try before I fully knocked it. And when I did, God proved Himself right EVERY SINGLE TIME. Won’t you try Him?
I surveyed a few women on this topic and here are their answers :