A successful marriage isn’t one that is void of pain, trails, storms, temptations, or issues. A successful marriage is one that understands you will have those things yet, you love each other enough to work through those things and respect and honor your commitment to God by staying even when they love fades. See just because something fades at one point, that doesn’t mean it won’t come back to life. The luminous colors of your marriage can shine again when you work for it, the problem is people want things to just BE SUCCESSFUL without doing the hard work. That’s silly and unrealistic.
How hard do you work to get a great education, a great career, and raise great children? HARD. How hard do you work to KEEP your GREAT job? HARD. But when it comes to the most important relationship you’ll ever have on earth, people are just expecting it to work just because, and not working with the same intensity as the things I’ve just stated.
To have and maintain a successful marriage you must first believe it’s possible to obtain and then you have to put in your work. Sometimes putting in your work means going on a date with your spouse and other times it means going through counseling with your spouse. Sometimes work can be as simple as doing the dishes and other times it can be as hard as leaving a job because you feel like you may fall into destruction with the person you are having an emotional affair with.
No matter what, I have found all of the hard work pays off when people look back and say, “If I had to choose all over again knowing all that I know now, I’d still choose you.”