Some may wonder why a loving parent would say things to their young child that tore them down and caused them to feel less than acceptable. Some may argue the point that loving parents don’t spew out harmful negativity because that’s not what love does. But what if that same parent says “I love you” to their child on occasions? What if that same parent gives approval and admiration as well? The child can then become confused. Sometimes they feel loved and when they don’t, they try their best to win their parents acceptance, approval, and love by performing works.
Sometimes they are met with more negative words and so they try harder and harder until they receive those words that heal and cause them to feel loved. Now what if the bad outweighs the good? The child will start to believe the bad because it’s coming from someone they believe loves them. They are too young to know themselves and are still growing, becoming, trying to figure out what they like, and don’t like. Who they are is defined by the adults in their lives that are supposed to love and care for them. (Until they can grow to be an adult and redefine themselves…hopefully.)Because they are the parents, the child assumes they should know.
Here is a list of things I was told about myself when I was a child by my guardians and other adults close to me.
- You are evil.
- You are mean.
- You are hateful.
- You are hyper active.
- You are too silly.
- You are crazy.
- You are too fresh.
- You are bad.
- You are dumb.
10) You ain’t s_ _ t and you never will be.
It was very hard for anyone to convince me that I was anything but those things that I was told by my loved ones. Yet, something inside of me wanted to believe and I fought and I fought and I fought. Then I met God and jumped headfirst into a relationship with Him and he helped me to win the fight. He said I was in fact precious, wonderful, and a good thing! I believed Him. He created me so I figured He should know!
14 I will give thanks unto thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: Wonderful are thy works; And that my soul knoweth right well.
He who finds a wife finds what is good, gaining favor from the Lord.
Don’t allow people, circumstances, trials, or negativity to define you. Leave that to your Creator, He knows who you are, who you will become, and who you are meant to be. He knows everything about you down to the number of hairs on your head, before, during, and after you comb it.
29 Aren’t two sparrows sold for a small coin? But not one of them will fall to the ground without your Father knowing about it already. 30 Even the hairs of your head are all counted. 31 Don’t be afraid. You are worth more than many sparrows.
Building a healthy relationship with your Father in heaven and yourself is essential before you think about becoming one with another. Start there and be prepared.
What are some things you’ve done or are currently doing to prepare for a husband?