Tolerance: The act or capacity of enduring; endurance: (My tolerance of noise is limited).
Long-suffering: 1. Enduring injury, trouble, or provocation long and patiently.
2. enduring pain, unhappiness, etc., without complaint
Long-suffering sounds like love, Tolerance sounds like limits.
Why is it that the things couples allowed in dating are the very things they are ending up in divorce court over?
How is it that almost all of the qualities that couples thought were charming, adorable, and attractive, are the same things couples are arguing over day in and day out without any relief or signs of happiness returning?
*Strong and take charge becomes controlling
*Assertive and organized becomes bossy
*Helpful and caring becomes nagging and nit-picking
*Relaxed and laid back becomes lazy
*Determine and driven becomes pushy
Why is it that people will lie to themselves and promise that things they find extremely difficult to deal with will change after marriage? The truth is, things can change, but they also can not change as well. Being self-aware is the key. Know what you can and can’t tolerate and what things you can be long-suffering through. I know it can be hard to imagine every single scenario but it’s a ball park thing. Sometimes we fool ourselves with what we can put up with, but more often we don’t.
I believe that people who share the same believes as I when it comes to marriage (that marriage is for life unless your spouse is unfaithful and has sex with someone else) should really consider all things a person is and isn’t and what they will and will not bring to the marriage. It’s hard enough as it is without all of the extras. Know yourself and know enough about your potential mate’s flaws to be able to make a wise decision. Because marriage should not be about tolerating, but long-suffering.